How do you validate your friendship?

spaceballspaceball2spaceball2spaceball2I was leaving my sisters house to head on home.  When I got in the car I called my Hubby to let him know I was on my way home.  He was telling me a story that happened earlier that night with a friend.  And in that conversation my conclusion question was “How do you validate your friendship?”  Everyone has at least one person that they would call a friend.  So, lay it out on the table.  What little or big thing, for that matter, do you do to show your sincerity to that one friend?  Is it calling them once a week to see how they are doing, taking them out to lunch once in a while, sending them a card in the mail, which one is it?  Maybe you don’t need to do anything to show your friend that you cherish their friendship, its just the simple fact that you care.  


With previous friendships of mine, I have been through the ups and downs of friendships.  I have been burned by a friend for simply caring too much.  I have learned to let go and move on because, really, life is so short and friends come and go.  Then there are those friends how stick around because they care and you know that they care.  But there was never a validation set in place to ensure that I have a friend, I just always know that if I need someone to talk to, they are a phone call away.  It is nice to send cards, make phone calls, or go out to lunch, that is how a friendship grows.  But without all of that you still know you have a friend.  So the questions remains to everyone out there, how do you validate your friendship?


I was just picking up some food!

mexican-food_imgSo it was a Saturday night, just got home from church and I was hungry.  Hubby was at work and I was on my own for dinner.  I went down to one of my favorite places to eat.  I walked in the doors and it wasn’t very busy.  I went up to the counter, I knew exactly what I wanted, I ordered and payed for my food.  While I was waiting for it to be ready…before I move into this section of the story, I must ask…has anyone every felt like they were being watching or starred at?  


Well, this was the case.  I looked up and all three guys in the kitchen were starring at me and smiling with those googly eyes that men have when they try to flirt with their eyes.  So then I turned my head and looked the other way and you will never believe this, but the another guy about 5 feet away was doing the same thing.  Could this be anymore uncomfortable for me.  Mean time, while this is all happening, I am thinking to myself why I even came to get food, what were they looking at (don’t they see the ring on my finger), and all these men seriously need mind their own buisness, amongst other things.  Finally, my food is ready.  It felt like foreverrrrrrrrr.  I am talking like more then 10 minutes, maybe 20.  But in reality it wasn’t that long.  I quickly grabbed my food and proceeded to the door and I can just feel that odd feeling in my presence that every single one of them were watching me walk out.  I finally get outside and I could, a breath of fresh air.  I need that fresh air, I was getting nervous.  Not nervous in a scared way, but nervous in a you way that these guys are sick type of way.  I get in the car call my hubby and share my random story and just laugh it away.  I know this wasn’t the first and won’t be the last.  


When were you starred down in an odd situation?  I know I am not the only woman out there that this happens to.

Where do you draw the line?

There is an unspoken game that is always being played by someone, to me it is not of God; however, sometimes because of our core values and beliefs, we got caught up in the game and forget that we are just being an honest and true person in accordance to who we know we are.  This game that I am referring to is playing by someone’s else’s rules, basically their way or the highway.  We, gradually somehow get suckered into it and we don’t even know that it has happened.  Then one day, everything hits the fan and we lose.  The rule maker no longer feels that things are going their way and for some reason, they make this random decision to break up and ruin the lives of others and swipe their everyday world from underneath them and it doesn’t seem to phase the rule maker.  As a good person, how do things get this way?  How do will fall into such a trap?  Where do we draw the line?  I know for me as a Christian, I am stronger then that.  I don’t need to go around hurting others.  However, as a Christian sometimes for me, I am too nice of a person and I want to help everyone before myself.  Well here is where I draw the line.  God is first, then myself and my family comes next.  I don’t ever want to have to draw the line again.  Just know that the line is always there and I now know I shouldn’t cross it.  Most importantly in the end, pray for the rule maker.  


Has anyone ever played this game without knowing?  Where do you draw the line?  Would love to hear some feedback.



To HATE or not to HATE, that is the question?



  To dislike intensely and/or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward. to hate the enemy.  
Just so we are all on the same page here, I went ahead and defined the word hate.  I didn’t do that because I didn’t think no one knew the meaning of the word, I did it because I wanted to make sure everyone knew what I meant when I spoke of this word.  
Today I was reading through different things today online and I stopped counting after ten, which is the number of times the word “HATE” was used.  Why people use the word hate in everyday language is beyond me; however, I can think of other words that could be used that aren’t so harsh.  I just think that “hate” is used so freely and it really shouldn’t be.  To hate something is rude, immature, and very ugly.  We can chose our words wisely and use words such as: dislike, despise, intolerable, etc.
Just a suggestion, but maybe we can replace harsh, ugly words with words that aren’t so verbally abusive.  Words speak louder then actions and I know that words are taken very seriously when communicating.  Just make sure the next time you write something, say something aloud, or even think something, remember to think about what you are saying and choose your words wisely.  
How do words attack your feelings and emotions?  What words truly hit that nerve to the point that you are hurt? 
Can’t wait to hear what others feel about words!

Financial Peace or Financial Disaster?

Since before Christmas and maybe since before Thanksgiving my church has been talking about Dave Ramsey and how our Pastor was going to be interviewing him about “financial peace.”  Right now, we are living the financial disaster and I know for sure I don’t want to stay that way.  We need to get out of this rutt we are stuck in.  I have to admit, I am not one to talk or discuss money it is one of those things that just triggers anger and frustration.  However; I was really excited about this one.  I have seen and listened to Dave Ramsey before on his show on Fox 5 Business Network and on his Radio show.  This guy is amazing, hilarious, and very real.  Last night at church was the first service that kicked off our four week series of financial peace.  I really feel that his enthusiasm, tips, small term goals, and financial advice can truly help out in any given financial situation.  He really gears it to your income and has baby steps, small goals, to reach before financial peace.  Like he said (I am paraphrasing here), “it isn’t going to turn around in a day or even a week.  This is something that is going to take effort, self motivation, and a melting point.”  What he means by a melting point is, there is going to be a point where you tired of living the way you are living and you are going to finally say enough is enough.  It really has to be that point of enough.  


So here is what I suggest, check this guy out, read one of his books, watch or listen to one of his shows.  He is absolutely amazing.  He is a Christ follower and he knows how to really turn or financial situations around if you open your heart and allow some guidance in your life.  


Here is one of his official websites where you can read more information:


On this website you can also check to see where classes are being held in your area, type in your zip code and find a local church or place that his financial peace study course is taking place.  I know it will help you out tremendously whether you are living paycheck to paycheck or just living under tight circumstances, or even if you monies and you just don’t know where it is going.


I hope that you all enjoy this amazing guy.  He is a god’s way of giving a helping out to those suffering in the economic recession.  I pray that many will soon enjoy financial peace and not financial disaster.


In Him,


LIVE out loud, LAUGH all the time, LOVE from your heart!


LIVE...LAUGH...LOVEMy first blog of 2009!  This year needs to go out with a bang in a good way.   All things are possible for 2009 if we LIVE out loud, LAUGH all the time, and LOVE from our hearts.  We are always so focused on the everyday details of finances, chores, errands, amongst a list of other things.  Lets go back to basics and remember what truly captures our hearts at the end of the day.




LIVE out loud…take advantage of everyday.  Work takes up most of our time, but when your not at work, what are you doing?  Granted we have our everyday details to take care of; however, step back out of your everyday routine and do something you enjoy for yourself.  Whether it be read a book, get a massage, go for a walk, hike a mountain, scream until you can’t scream anymore, or go sky diving to get that thrill that your adrenaline thrives off of.  Now don’t be selfish here and take this out of context still remember the reality of everyday.  In the words of Tim McGraw “Live like you were dying!”

LAUGH all the time…I work with the public everyday or well at least five days a week and even when I am not at work I still notice the same thing about most people, if not all.  I know that 2008 was a tough year for MANY; however, there is no reason why we can’t turn our frown upside for 2009 and share a laugh.   We need to LAUGH more!  Through the grace of God and those that surround us, we can be happy and laugh together.  Out of the many that I greet everyday 9 times out of 10 I couldn’t get someone to crack a smile to save my life.  The sound of laughter should bring a smile to anyones face.  Whether it be sharing funny stories, classy but harmless joking around, watching a movie, or just for the sake of laughing.  Laughing is any good doctors remedy to being sad or depressed.


LOVE from your heart…a very strong word that has several meanings; however, we use the word love for everything.  I love football, I love dancing, I love pizza, I love to talk, I love my church, I love God, I love my Hubby, etc.   I think in 2008 somehow we lost how to love or to express our love, whether it be for football, dancing, food, church, or our significant other.  SAY IT…say what it is that you love and mean it.  Know deep down in your heart that whatever it is that you love is true to your heart, far from being fake in every way, and your not afraid to share it.  And remember from the words of our Father, Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance, 1 Corinthians 4-7.


I pray that this blog finds everyone in a wonderful place for 2009.  There is no more time to prepare or get yourself ready for it.  It is here to stay and we are moving forward.  Just remember 2009 is looking up for us, its a new chapter to our wonderful life story.  Take care and you will hear from me real soon.  I am sure I can find more to say in this thoughtful little brain of mine.  


In Him,


The Hundred Dresses

Title: The Hundred Dresses

Author: Eleanor Estes

Illustrated: Louis Slobodkin


I first read this book a few years ago as a project for a class I was taking.  I had to do a read aloud (which this is where you read this to a group of children) and I also had to do a book review on it as well.  This is wonderful story about a little girl named Wanda.  She lives way up in the hills and has no friends at school.  However, there is something about Wanda that appears to be different to others and therefore is picked on by the other children.  She wore the same little blue dress to school everyday.  The dress had seen its day; however, it was her dress and her favorite.  She told a lie to her school friends to be accepted about having one hundred dresses.  No one at school believes her and she continues to tell them she does in fact have one hundred dresses at home in all different colors and materials. One day her Father writes a note to school informing them Wanda will not be returning along with her brother.  It is a mystery to everyone as to why Wanda is no longer there.  I am going to stop right there and leave the rest a mystery to you as well.  Please take a moment and enjoy a great read.